That's my understanding of pride. Whatever I accomplish, nothing else is a source of pride. I can only go as far as deriving pride from how my children turn out because I had a lot to do with it.
I feel no pride or shame from other people's accomplishments, even if they share my genes.
Inculcating patriotism is just another form of mind control. I may feel lucky that I live in a country of the West, especially Europe or Northamerica, but no pride. I can also decide to defend the country I live in by using reasoning. No need for emotional manipulation, as it s often done in patriotic speeches and rallies.